>Day 30 of 30.

>A Picture

We have successfully completed our first blog challenge!! While this was fun and interesting, I am glad it is over!

Pride '08

Back when it all started :)

>Day 29 of 30.

>3 Wishes

1. We wish to find the most perfect jobs with perfect schedules to raise a family.

2. We wish to find the best house we can afford meeting all our needs.

3. We wish to legally wed with full benefits and cross-adopt our future kids in GA asap!

>Day 28 of 30.

>Something That Stresses You Out

Well being that I am the worrier of this household, I tend to let everything STRESS me out!! But nothing, stresses me out as much as SCHOOL and trying to figure out what I am going to do with the rest of my life. I didnt get in to nursing school yet, and some days I am not even sure thats what I want. I have looked into other degrees such has Health Care Administration or Health Information Management. Both seem like nice office jobs with nice pay and schedule. I am also thinking about Public Service moving toward social services and counseling. SEEEEE this is why I stress. I try to just pray about it and let go & let God. :)

Time will tell.

>Day 27 of 30.

>Pets

Of course our pets are actually our furry-children :)

Kiwi- Is our little princess. She is delicate and danity, perfers to cuddle in the bed with her mommas. She doesnt play as much as she used too because shes just too much of a princess for that. Although every morning when we wakes up, she gets a spirt of energy and runs all through the house with the little yellow giraff. This is by far the cutest thing. In the morning, she also lays on her tummy with her back legs stretched out and drags her body across the floor, super cute! She spends most of the day curled up in our covers, napping or giving herself a mani-pedi. :) She likes the sweaters/dresses we put her in but she lets us know when she has had enough and we take it off for her. Otherwise, she will try to wiggle out of it getting her legs stuck in the neck part.. lol.. Kiwi is "my" baby. She is just like me: moody & bitchy. When I leave for work, Jess says she just waits by the door or gets in her bed till I come back. *sad*

Mango- is all boy. He is rough and lacks grace. He hides all his toys and bones under our bed or under the couch. Mango isnt much of a cuddler.. sometimes he lays down with us.. but only for a second before hes up and running through the house terrorizing some stuffed animal!! When he eats, he carries the food under our bed to eat, as if its his own personal club house. Mango is Jessica's "baby".. he is just like her. Silly and sweet, and ALWAYS wanting to play. He always has to be first just like her. He does have a not so sweet side when he has a new bone or arbys wrapper.. lol.. he will hide with his new found treat and growls and snarls if he even look like you want his treat. We call this Evil Mango.

>Day 26 of 30.

>Picture of Your Family

not the best picture because its very difficult to get squirming chihuahuas to be still :)

And my family before Jess.

I believe I was seventeen (so young) in this picture.

My brother, me, my niece, and my momma.



>Day 25 of 30.

>Favorite Memory

I dont think I can list just one memory :)

1. Surprising Jess in SC for her tournament game is probably my most favorite memory. The look on her face when she saw me across the court is a memory I will cherish FOREVER!! I would do it all again if I had too. It was one of the best days of my life. <3

2, When she told me she loved me. We went to the fair and she wanted to tell me at the top of the Ferris Wheel.. but the atendant sat a man and his son with us. WTF! Plus she didnt have a voice... so she just gave up. After the fair date, she took me home and headed back to school... she sent me a very long text saying that she had never felt this way about anyone and that she was in love with me. Que the awws. I wrote her back and said "really?" I didnt realize that it sounded so bad because I was jumping up and down like a kid in a candy store. I was super excited and deeply in love with her. She of course was thinking that I didnt feel the same and that this wouldnt last now. But I texted her back and said "Good, cuz in totally in love with you too."

3. The first time she kissed me. No details here for this one! But I will say that Jess is very "old school" about relationships and didnt even try to kiss me for almost 2 months. And can I just mention that she slept in my bed every weekend she came home to see me, but never tried to kiss me because she believes in getting to know someone and not just jumping right in. She says there is no reason lesbians should rush their relationships and shouldn't be any different than straight people. This is one of my favorite things about her. Her opinions on relatioships are so solid and reasonable.

>Day 24 of 30.

>Something You've Learned

I have learned that sometimes you really can love and trust one person 100% of the time. I learned that not everyone cheats or thinks about cheating or talks about cheating. I love that I NEVER question Jess at all. I never have to wonder where she is or what she is really doing. I have learned that even when its hard I cant just walk away or leave. Jess and I have built a life and everything we have is tied together. This is basically a marriage already and all we can do is keep building. We have so many hopes and dreams together that nothing is worth losing it all.

>Day 23 of 30.

>Favorite Vacation

 Last summer we went to Panama City Beach, FL.

For the first time together, read about it here. 

Being on the beach with her was amazing even if it was cloudy the WHOLE time..

except the morning we left!

>Day 22 of 30.

>Favorite City

Seattle, Washington

Although, I loved New York, I have to say Seattle is my favorite.

It's gorgeous. Everything so green and luscious compared to GA. obviously. 

I cant wait to visit it with Jess... She will love it too.

The Space Needle is by far my favorite... its just beautiful.

And the view is of course breathtaking!

>Day 21 of 30.

>Picture of Us

>Day 20 of 30.

>Nicknames

Well our most obvious nicknames are Shell (from Shirrell) and Bake (from Baker).. we talked about this here. We have tons of cutesy nicknames for each other such as

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  Baby


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  Pookie


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  Pookie Bear


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  Pookietins ( thats what I call her :) )


• 
  
  Love


• 
  
  Lovey


• 
  
  Sexy Girl

My nicknames:

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  Shell


• 
  
  Squirrel


• 
  
  Squi-rell


• 
  
  Brain (from my BFF Pinky :) )

Jess' nicknames:

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  Jess


• 
  
  Bake


• 
  
  "Big Shot Bake!" Which is from her freshmen year in college when she made the game winning shot at the last second. :)

>Day 19 of 30

>Something You Miss

 To keep it light and fun,

I miss being young and not having a job.

Summers that were filled with late night talking on the phone,

and days sleeping till late afternoon.

I miss freedom of no bills and knowing mom would always pay.

I miss Live Wire Mountain Dew :)

I don't know why they don't sell this in GA anymore

but every summer I MISS IT!

I miss skinned knees and bruises

from playing outside.

I miss jumping on my trampoline and swimming all day

from morning till night

because swimming in the dark was

SO MUCH FUN!

I miss skating every Thursday night

or whatever school night was. :)

I miss lame school dances and secret crushes.

I miss candy grams from friends on holidays.

As much as I miss being a kid sometimes,

I love my independence of being an adult ;)

>Day 18 of 30.

>Something You Regret

Hmmm... Something I regret??

I dont usually regret things I do or say, because I believe everything happens for a reason. I guess the main thing I regret is staying in relationships too long, when I knew I wasnt happy. I tried so hard to make it work, when I was making myself (and my friends) crazy with my insanity. I wanted so desperately to "be in love" that I was ignoring the BIG reason I wasnt happy. If I had know when I was 17-21 that real love was just around the corner, and all I had to do was wait.... man, I would have saved myself a lot of anxiety. Everything I have ever tried to feel for someone, or believed a relationship could be, was all wrapped up one perfect package. Jessica. Sure, we had many many ups and downs in the beginning, but nothing ever worth throwing in the towel. I KNOW we have never lied to each other or cheated on each other.. our relationship has always remained completely trustworthy. This quality was lacking in my previous relationships. So I guess my "regret" was not knowing when to just walk away and let go. The future will never come if youre still holding on to the past. Once I let go... I found my future. :)

>Day 17 of 30.

>Something You Are Looking Forward To

I think at the moment we are most looking forward to going to the BEACH this summer!!

 Aside from that, We are pretty excited about my graduation from my jr college. Haha I dont see much of a point to "graduating" but it very important for Jess & my mom, and it makes me very excited that they care way more than I do. I am just looking forward to the pics of me in my cap & gown looking super cute with mom and Jess. Thats the most important thing to me :)

I am looking forward to transferring colleges and really get started on my degree.

Jess is looking forward to a new puppy... All of a sudden she needs a new baby.. Mango wont let us hold him like a baby anymore and I think Jessica's biological clock is ticking faster and faster. lol.

>Day 16 of 30.

>Dream House

Our Dream House would have 4-5 bedrooms with 3-4 full baths and a finished basement for the kids to have an extra play area and some extra square feet for living. We would like between 3500-4000 square feet. I would love to have a jack and jill bathroom between 2 of the kids bedrooms. We also want an inground swimming pool and a large fenced in yard for our kids and dogs to play in! Oh yeah and a wrap around porch!

I am in charge of the kitchen because I love to cook! Shell is un charge of the master bathroom! The woman has to have her large tub and closet!

Here are a few pics of what we like!

>Day 15 of 30.

>A Bible Verse

Revelations 7:16-17

First, The Book of Revelations is my favorite. Most people find this completely weird, but regardless of all the pain and suffering in that book, I KNOW, at the end, HE is coming back! That's why its my favorite. Well... that... and I love the Left Behind: The Kids books. I read them from about 12-22. Amazing books.

I love these verses because of the Kir.k Franklin song "Revolution". At the beginning of the song he says:



The Book of Revelations

Chapter 7:Verses 16 and 17

They shall hunger no more,

neither shall they thirst anymore

And God shall wipe away

every tear from the eye.

That part has always just stuck with me.

:)

>Day 14 of 30.

>A Picture You Love

Shell's Fav:

I love this picture because it's a genuine kiss.

We werent kissing for the camera or for someone who wont stop staring at us.

It was real.

And this kiss was before we were official,

which I love.

Yes we are at a bar and yes I was a tad* tipsy.

But I remember this perfectly.

One of my best friends took this picture because she said the moment was perfect.

*The guy in the back is not a creeper. lol.

He is a friend who just happen to walk up at the wrong time :)

Bake's Fav:

 

She loves this picture because

1. It NEVER snows in GA, and it has snowed every year we have been together.

2. It's our little family in the snow on Christmas

3. And because we are in hoodies and jammy pants.. her fav!!

:)

Day 14 of 30.

A Picture You Love

Shell's Fav:

I love this picture because it's a genuine kiss.

We werent kissing for the camera or for someone who wont stop staring at us.

It was real.

And this kiss was before we were official,

which I love.

Yes we are at a bar and yes I was a tad* tipsy.

But I remember this perfectly.

One of my best friends took this picture because she said the moment was perfect.

*The guy in the back is not a creeper. lol.

He is a friend who just happen to walk up at the wrong time :)

Bake's Fav:

 

She loves this picture because

1. It NEVER snows in GA, and it has snowed every year we have been together.

2. It's our little family in the snow on Christmas

3. And because we are in hoodies and jammy pants.. her fav!!

:)

>Day 13 of 30.

>Your Goals

Where we are in our lives and in our relationship, is completely GOAL ORIENTED. We have goals on top of goals on top of goals. We have a lot of wants, and we have somewhat started planning for each of them.
So here goes:

• Graduate college
• This is probably our biggest goal right now. Jess graduates May 2012, and shes debating on getting her Masters. I am all for her getting it right after graduation if she wants it because its only another year. I "graduate" from my 2 year college in June (2 months away!! :) ) but I am transferring to a 4 year school for the fall, so to me its not really "graduating". But to my mom and Jess this is a major event, in which she has already picked out the cake and sent out invites ;)
• I know it seems like I keep changing my mind about what I want to do, but really what I wanted to do never changed. I just didnt know exactly what I wanted to do was called or what degree would be needed. I thought nursing because I could "help" people. But really its shift work, and I'm not helping in the way I wanted. Then I thought teaching because I could help the children, again not the way I wanted. I had always wanted to be a Social Worker, but I was always told "too much work, not enough money". My degree will be in Sociology.
  

Get Married

• We are planning Summer/Fall 2012. We are not going to let the fact that it's not "legal" stand in our way of a beautiful wedding. We are somewhat torn between a church/banquet hall with the tradional ceremony follwed by the reception. Or a nice beach wedding where everything is included for one price. Regardless, we are both wearing beautiful dresses!!

• Get Jobs (in our field)
• Jess has always known that she wanted to teach and coach basketball. Simple as that.
• I want to be a Social Worker specializing in LGBTQ youth, adoptions (this may help us when we try to adopt/foster), troubled youth, Sexual Health Counseling (I hope that falls in there) and just wherever this may take me.

• Buy a House
• We know exactly what we want and hopefully in this economy, we will be able to afford it. We want 3-4 bedrooms with at least 2 1/2 bathrooms. Jessica's main concern is the kitchen, she wants to design it or at least have it fit all her wants/needs. My main concern is that we have a spacious master bathroom with HUGE tub, seperate shower, and a double vanity. My second concern is that we have an in ground pool, because this is GA and IT IS H.O.T!!

• Start a Family
• Putting aside my fears of never getting pregnant because of financial strains, we both plan to carry. We want 2-4 kids, especially twins :) We also want to try to foster/adopt. Because I watch too many Crimin.al Minds and L&O:SVU, I worry about having kids in our home with violent issues. I worry about the safety of the other kids and our pets. Pets are usually the first to be abused, and I just wont risk that. So this will take alot of consideration before we do it. With babies and toddlers, I think we will prob just jump right in.

• Our mini-goal
• is a week vacation on the beach for our 3 year anniversary in July. We have been saving since January and our super excited!! :)

>Day 12 of 30.

>What you believe

• We believe that Jesus died on the cross for our sins, too.
• We believe that He loves us unconditionally, regardless of us being gay.
• We believe that our sins are forgiven, just like anyone else.
• We believe that we are NOT 2nd class citizens and we DESERVE the same rights as everyone else.
• We believe that we should have a right to marry, regardless of what other think or vote on.
• We believe that one day (hopefully sooner, rather than later) we will be able to legally wed.

>Day 11 of 30.

>Favorite TV Shows.

Now this is a fun topic. We LOVE TV!!! We have 2 dvrs and records so many differnt shows. We also have Net.flix to watch seasons of shows we have never seen.

Our Favorites are:

• Criminal Minds (Because Shemar Moore is a special kind of sexy ;))
• Army Wive.s
• Grey's Anat.omy (although lately its not so good)
• Pri.vate Practice
• Hel.lcats
• Sist.er Wives (I find polygamy so interesting, not the compund/child bride kind of course!!)
• Law & Or.der SVU
• Teen M.om & All the 16 & Preg.nant shows.. even though I usually want to throw the remote at the tv cuz the girls ALWAYS piss me off!!!
• Pretty Little Liars
• We also like the cupcake & multiples reality shows. haha.
• And we have a need to watch E! reality shows like The Kardashians and all their spin-offs, and Kendra and Holly's shows.

Our seasons on DVD we love the most:

• Friends
• How I Met Your Mother
• Gilmore Girls
• The Big Bang Theory

What we are watching on Net.flix:

• Big Love
• The Secret Life of the American Teenager (hehehe)

>Day 10 of 30.

>Something you are afraid of.

There's so much I am afraid of.

My biggest fear is what could happen to me or Jess, if one of us is really sick or dies. I am deathly afraid of one of us not being able to see the other if something tragic happens, simply because we aren't "married". God forbid something should ever happen, but if shes is in the hospital, I am afriad I wont be able to get to her. I am scared that I wont be "allowed" in her hospital room or to make decisions on her behalf. I think about this all the time and it breaks my heart. I know laws are supposed to be changing and that hospitals dont hold these rules anymore, but still. I worry about always having to defend my relationship to someone or my relationship never being taken seriously in these types of situations. I am so scared that when we have children, if one of us dies, that the other will have to fight to keep the kids we had TOGETHER. I also worry the one left behind will also have to fight to keep the house or any possessions we have together. We plan to have as many legal documents drawn up to protect each other from anyone taking anything from us. The documents/living wills will literally name every single thing so that there is no question. I dont think our families would do anything like this but you never know what a someone will do after losing someone they love. We will name each other power of attorney in all cases and even now list each other as emergency contacts. This is something straight couples rarely have to think about, and its so unfair. I HATE that my life is dictated by people I dont know and dont know me. My right to get married to a woman is MY business and no one else's... but thats another post.

Another fear of mine is that we will never have children. I am scared it will cost us way too much and that we wont be able to get pregnant. Adoption is something we plan to do anyways, but we both want to carry a baby. On that note, I am scared that we wont ever be approved to adopt simply because we are lesbians.

Fire. I have a fear that one day when we leave the house, it will catch on fire. The fur-babies are crated at night and when we are gone, and I worry that they will be trapped if the house catches on fire. Many times when I leave, I make sure the dryer isnt running and that there arent any blankets/clothes near outlets. I try to turn everything off (except the tv with cartoons we leave on for them to have some noise :) ) I cant leave them out of the crate because 1. they might tinkle on my floor, 2. it stresses them out because dogs feel they need to protect the house so they pace the house, and 3. they like their bed, its never a struggle to get them in there. Also with the fire, I am afraid I will lose the few pics I have of my dad. Even though, I have copies and they are loaded to facebook, I still worry. If we are home and there is a fire, I know I will get the babies (and the picture of me and my dad that sits on the shelf near their bed) out with us. I will risk my life to get my babies out.. I wont care if the door handle is hot ( like they teach in school) I am going to get them.

Less dramatic fears: I hate roller coasters. I dont like heights, small spaces, or crowded places (not like concerts or fairs, but stores with too many shoppers or restuarants with so many people you cant think!)

Jess's Fears are simple. She is afraid of flying and death. Her fear of flying is not that the plane could crash, she accepts that. She is afraid of crashing in the ocean and drowning or being eaten by sharks. ( That always make me laugh a little. :) )

>Day 9 of 30.

>

Picture of your Best Friend

  (other than Jess of course!)

*Pinky & The Brain*

I met Robin (aka Bina) when I was 19, when she got a job a Publix.

 We have been through hell & high water... boys, (& girls for me) break-ups, make-ups, parties, drunken nights with tons of drama ;),
work issues like being wrote up for $1000 short in the office cuz of 1 tiny mistake lol,
234786297831 different hair colors, some beach fun, and so so much more.

At work they always made fun of us saying

"when u see one, u see the other" & they called us Pinky & The Brain..lol..

cuz we were always in trouble.

Now we live almost 4 hours apart and havent seen each other in a couple of years.

But I still consider her my best friend, because its not how often you see a bff
but rather the shit you have been through together.

And because when we do talk, its always like nothing has changed.

Plus, since we have matching "Friend" tattoos, I figure she deserves the BFF title :)

>Day 8 of 30.

>A place you have traveled:

(Other than the surrounding southern states)

Shell has been to:

*I included the World Trade Centers because I was there 5 months before September 11.

*I have no desire to leave the country. I would like to visit Australia one day though.

Possibly even Europe, but I am completely terrified of never being able to come back home*

Bake have been to:



>Day 7 of 30.

>Movies.

We love movies. There's something about going to see a movie with a bucket of popcorn, drink, and candy!! :) More than going to see a movie we love BUYING movies! We have a ton of movies and several that havent even been opened yet! We both love romantic comedies, but differ on the rest. I usually like scary movies, although lately not so much. I am not into the whole zombie/evil spirits movies that have been taking of the horror section. I like the classics like Freddy, Jason, and Michael. I LOVE the SCREAM movies and cant wait for #4 to come out next Friday! Jess HATES scary movies but she goes with me anyways because she cant bare the thought of someone else being next to me in a theatre if I get scared. She likes what I call "guy" movies, like war types or something set in an old time period (300). And of course she loves sports related movies. I can handle sports movies but I HATE the others she likes.

Some favorites of Ours:

 (Yes we are those people!)

*Saw this first time we met*



Bake's Faves:

 (We have a CAR.S Room!!)

Shell's Faves:

>Day 6 of 30.

>A picture of something that makes you happy.









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